Don’t Have Time?!

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Okay so this is going to be a pretty short blog post, I am currently writing this on my phone while I am cooking my lunch. As I mentioned a post or 2 again I am currently a very busy person trying to run this blog, studying 2 courses, trying to work overtime all while balancing the gym and my diet in there as well.
Because I am trying to balance this I am going to be putting this blog on hold for a little while BUT I am not going to say that I am too busy to do it! I hate that excuse, you are never too busy to do something, you have the same 24 hours in your day as everyone else and I guarantee there are people who use those 24 hours much more productively than you, the simple fact is its not a high enough priority for you at that moment.
While there is only so much you can do in a day the fact is that almost nobody is 100% productive and efficient, this means if something was a high enough priority then you could make time for it, the catch is.. This time has to come from somewhere, if you’re being as efficient with your time as you possibly can then that time has to come out of the time you would spend doing another task, for example if you wanted to hit the gym before work you might need to get an hour less sleep to do that.
As much as I enjoy blogging and providing (hopefully) helpful content, it is currently not the highest priority to me. Because of how busy I am, I am struggling to get everything done, this has resulted in me not getting enough sleep aswell as no longer reading which in turn has made me hit a bit of a creative wall. At the moment I am seriously struggling to think of new blog ideas, which is disastrous when you’re meant to upload two a week…
So for the time being, hopefully only a couple of weeks, I am going to stop with the blogging and give myself more time for other things as well as giving myself time to think of content for my blog.
If there is anything that can be taken away from this post, it is stop saying you are too busy to do something, truth is it’s just not a high enough priority for you at that moment for you to invest the time in it. On that note I will leave you with this:
“You define what is important to you by what you dedicate your time to. “
Thank you for reading this one, I am hoping to come back very soon once I have got over this creative block and find a better schedule to manage my time! Thanks again, I will be back soon. Ciao!

Going Back To Basics

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Okay i’m not talking about going back to basics to the extent of that picture above but more going back to basics in terms of getting sh*t done. As of just recently I have been getting busier and busier but I am getting lazier and lazier, needless to say this is not a good mix. So to combat this I am going to go back to the basic productivity activities that I used to do.

Firstly I am going to start writing sh*t down again and making lists, as I’ve discussed before writing stuff down with a notepad and pen is the best way of getting yourself to be more productive, seeing that goal written down in your own handwriting can have a big effect on you not to mention it is incredibly satisfying to tick something off your to-do list.

It also allows you to plan out your day when you write things down because you’re not constantly thinking “I’ve got so much to do, I’ve got to do this and that” you just write it down and get on with it, this also makes it easier to think clearly as you have a clear mind.

Secondly I am going to start going for walks and listening to podcasts while on my walk again, this really helps me to clear my head and gives me some time out to think as well as letting me get in a bit extra exercise. One thing a lot of successful people share is they have dedicated time for themselves and allow themselves some time to clear their head.

Finally I am going to spend less time on Instagram as this seems to be eating up all my free-time at the moment so I will be setting out certain times where I can check social media. On that note I am going to leave this one here, so I will leave you with this:

“Days are expensive. When you spend a day you have one less day to spend. So make sure you spend each one wisely.” – Jim Rohn

Thank you for reading this one, its a bit shorter than my normal post but that’s probably a good thing. Leave a like if you enjoyed it and I encourage any of you struggling with productivity to try out these tips as well. Hit follow if you would like to keep up to date with my blog as I post twice a week, thank you again and I shall see you on Tuesday. Ciao!

 

 

It’s Okay To Say No!

If there is anything that I am terribly guilty of doing it is saying yes to everything, however this is something that I am trying to change this year. Truth is it is okay to say no! You are not obliged to do anything that you do not want to do and you are fully entitled to use that two letter word ‘NO’.

This is something people really need to start practising, if something costs you your happiness or your mental health then you might want to really considering saying no and focusing on your own well being instead. What people usually do is they get asked to do something by a friend or a colleague and you feel rude to say no but think to yourself if that is something that you do not want to do or is going to put you under stress because it is adding more workload on top of what you already need to do then it’s not worth it. Sure that person might be a bit disappointed but your own well being and happiness is more important, besides which if that person is a true friend then they will understand.

That is something that people also need to remember, if that person would be worth doing whatever task for then they will understand why you say no, if they hold the fact that you said no against you or it comes between your friendship then that person was never worth doing it for anyway. True friends will understand that it will make you unhappy or it will affect your mental well being and they wouldn’t dream of holding that against you because that’s not what friends do, real friends want you to be happy and do the best you can not get mad at you for turning something down.

Your happiness and mental health comes first! That is more important than anything! Obviously we all like to be helpful and like to lend a hand to people to make their lives easier but if it is going to be detrimental to yourself then it is not worth it! On that note I am going to leave you with this:

“Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive”

Thank you very much for reading this one and hope that it gives some people a bit of food for thought and potentially helps them out. Please leave a like if you enjoyed it and maybe a comment to let me know your thoughts. I post twice a week every week so if you would like to keep up to date with my content feel free to follow me. I shall see you again on Friday. Ciao!

 

 

People Come & Go

This is probably the biggest lesson I have learnt in the past week, a key to being happy in life is understanding that people come and go. Not everyone in your life is going to be there till the end, truth is someone who is currently your best friend may not even be an acquaintance anymore in a couple of years… this is okay.

You will be much happier in life when you realise that this is a natural thing and there is nothing you can do about it, it’s just part of life. Things change, people change, situations change.

Nobody is going to be the same person throughout their entire life, sometimes people change and their friends are no longer the best people for them to be around, for example if you’re an alcoholic and trying to pack in the drinking, you’re not going to want to hang around with your mates who go out every weekend to the pub and get absolutely hammered and pressure you to drink, that’s just setting yourself up to fail.

This topic rings strongly with me at the moment because last week I met up with someone who I’ve been best friends with since I was 6, however since we live far away from each other we’ve only saw each other twice in the past 15 years (context: we used to go school together but she moved away and we kept in contact) and one of these times was last week.

We met up and we didn’t get on at all.. We could not have been more opposite, this resulted in us both leaving it drained, after a few days of not talking we had a chat and that was the end of our friendship, my friend decided that it wasn’t going to work and we both felt like we didn’t know the other person and so that ended our friendship. Just like that our close friendship came crumbling down.

This just goes to show how easily a 15 year friendship can end so easily but that’s okay, yeah it sucks that it’s over but when it happened I realised I could either be upset and make myself feel crappy, or I could just accept that it’s part of life and move on.

So like I said understand that you will not always have the same friends, people come and go and that’s just how it is, once you realise this and accept it it’ll save you a lot of heartache in the long run. Anyway I am going to leave this one as i’m rambling, so I will leave you with this:

“In life; People come and go. So, don’t waste your time holding onto people who have let you go”

Thank you very much for reading this one and I hope that it helps someone and prevents them from being as upset when a relationship or a friendship ends. Leave a like if you enjoyed it, massive thank you to everyone liking my posts! Comment to let me know your thoughts. I hope to see you again on Tuesday. Ciao!

 

Don’t React In Anger

So we are all human, none of us are perfect, one way in which we are not perfect in is controlling our anger. At some point we have all lost our temper and lashed out, possibly said or did something that you didn’t mean and probably left the situation feeling regret. That quick outburst just because you were angry can put massive strain on relationships, possibly even end friendships, could get you in trouble with your boss, there is no limit to the negative effects just a few seconds of lashing out can cause.

Obviously this is something you want to avoid, so how do you do this? Don’t react straight away, when someone says something that angers you, stop yourself, bite your tongue if you have to, stop yourself from saying anything and think about what you are going to say. Remind yourself that you don’t want to say anything that you will later regret, an angry outburst might be what you want to do and might make you feel better in the moment but it will very soon have repercussions and you will probably regret saying whatever you said.

One piece advice you often hear is to count to 10 in your head, this is a very good technique for calming yourself down and not reacting when your anger is at its peak, allow yourself to calm down, let the anger subside before you reply. This will save you from straining relationships and losing friends over stupid things as well as saving many future headaches.

What you have to understand is people reflect back whatever they receive, for example if you ask someone a question politely then you will likely receive a polite answer, however if you are rude to that person then that person is just going to think “f*ck you” and be rude back to you or withhold the information from you.

Lets take a shopping experience as an example, say you are in a shop in a desperate rush as you have work in 20 minutes, you are looking for an item but are unable to find it so you walk up to a shop assistant and ask them where that product is, if you walk up to them full of anger because you are stressing that you are going to be late and talk to the shop assistant like crap then they will very likely give you crappy customer service and will just point you in the general direction of the product or just tell you they have none in stock. However if you walk up to them and politely ask for that product then they will likely walk you over to it and possibly quickly check the back for you if none are on the shelf.

Being polite and well composed at all times and not letting your anger get the better of you will always serve you better than if you let it take hold and you lash out. Hope you enjoyed this one, I will leave you with this:

“A┬ámoment of patience in a moment of anger saves a thousand moments of regret”

Thank you ever so much for reading this one and I hope I helped you to think more carefully about what you say when you are angry and not to let your emotions control you. Leave a like if you enjoyed it and possibly a comment to let me know what you think. Follow my blog if you would like to keep up to date with all the posts I upload. Thank you again and I hope to see you this Friday. Ciao!

Changing My Style

Good evening ladies and gentlemen! I fancied a bit of a different intro today instead of starting it off with “So” or “Okay” like I usually do. Yanno in about 3 months time I am going to be 22 years old… which is horrible to say out loud! All my life till recently I’ve been a ridiculously negative and miserable person, however as most of you probably know I am now making progress to becoming a more positive and happy being.

One thing I realised the other day when I looked in the mirror is I don’t like how I look, not in body but in my face/head. When I started thinking I realised I have been wearing glasses and had the same crappy hairstyle for about 16 years, the more I thought about this the more I wanted to have a change so that’s exactly what I decided to do. As of today I have a completely new hairstyle and tomorrow I am going into an opticians to look into getting contacts and you know what already I feel so much better about how I look.

I’ve shown a few of my friends my new look and they think it really suits me and already I feel much more confident and will hopefully even better tomorrow after I get my contacts and no longer have to wear glasses (all going well). But that’s not the only reason I wanted to change my look. Truth is part of me wanted to change my style because i’m not that same miserable f*cker that I once was, I am definitely not the same person who I was this time last year, not even remotely. I have changed for the better!

Now I am more confident, I have a better body and found a crazy passion in fitness and working out, I am constantly trying to better myself but learning more and reading, I am becoming a more positive person.

Maybe it’s time that you tried a different style or changed how you look or improve your body or your health. Do something that will make you feel better about yourself, your body, your life. At the end of the day we only get one life, why be miserable with it, live a life that you are happy with.

Not really sure if the message is completely clear in this post to be honest but hopefully it will inspire somebody to change their life for the better in some small way plus it is something that I wanted to discuss. Today’s quote is one of my all time favourites and it is something a lot of people need to start following:

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude” – Maya Angelou

Thank you so much if you read this one, it was a bit more of a personal one but hopefully you can take something away from it that will inspire you to improve your life. Please leave a like if you enjoyed it or a comment to let me know your opinion. Thanks again and I will see you as usual on Tuesday. Ciao!

Lack Of Exercise

So this has been abit of a weird week, for those of you who know me or read my blog regularly you probably know I have a keen interest in fitness and training, for the past 7 or so months I have been working out, for the past few months I’ve been completely committed to hitting all muscle groups once if not twice a week, as a general rule Wednesday through to Sunday are the days I train.

However this week has been a ‘deload week’ (A week where you decrease the weight or volume of your workout to allow a week for your muscles and joints time to fully recover), it is the first one I have ever done as it is something I only recently discovered and seen as I keep injuring myself just recently I thought it would be good to give my muscles a rest. I tried it on Wednesday and it was a horrendous workout, afterwards I felt like I hadn’t even done anything, this has resulted in me skipping the last 2 days of training which is not good.

What I was not expecting was the DRASTIC change in how I feel because I haven’t been training, these past few days I have felt horrific, I’ve felt lethargic, not wanting to get out of bed, struggling to write blog posts, I’ve not been reading, it has just hit me like a truck. This wasn’t even meant to be the topic of today’s post but I just couldn’t concentrate on the topic long enough to write a coherent blog post on the topic.

Reflecting upon this I think that I am going to have to get back into working out tomorrow and do a lot more research into a deload week, possibly consider lifting heavier so I at least feel something while i’m doing it. Honestly I don’t really know what the message is behind this blog post other than don’t skip training as it can apparently your well being quite severely.

Anyway i’m going to leave that one there as I need to head off to work and tomorrow after I’ve done some training I will get cracking on the blog post I was originally going to write today, make sure you tune in for that one on Tuesday as it will be a good one. But for now I am going to leave you with this:

“Focus on thinking forward. Second guessing your previous mistakes still won’t change them”

Thank you ever so much if you read this post especially since there wasn’t much advice given out on this one but I couldn’t leave you guys without some content to check out, I assure you normal posts will be resumed on Tuesday. Please leave a comment if you know much about deload weeks or if you have any advice to offer it would be much appreciated, just goes to show no matter how much you know you are still constantly learning. See you guys on Tuesday. Ciao!