The sad truth is we are not going to live forever, one day we are all going to perish and end up in a wooden casket or get turned to ashes, and that is fine, that it a part of life. The sad part of that is once you are dead you will be gone, you will be nothing but a memory in the hearts of your loved ones. I do not like the thought of that, I want to leave something behind, a legacy of sorts, I do not want to be buried and forgotten about, I want my life to have meant something, I want to have achieved something with my life and most importantly I want to make a difference to peoples lives.
That is why I do this blog every week, that is why I try to create YouTube videos when I have free time. I want to make people laugh, I want to make someones day that little bit brighter, sure its not like I am making a global impact that is going to change the world but we don’t need to, you just need to make a difference to someones life, if I affect just 1 persons life then I will be happy.
When we here about people making a difference it’s these big things that will change numerous peoples lives forever, that is something I admire to and would like to accomplish but just for a second imagine the butterfly effect of having a small effect on someone’s life and how that could ultimately completely reshape them as a person or reshape their future.
Let’s take a more extreme but not entirely unlikely circumstance of this, say you are a Youtuber and you make funny videos and you just want to make people laugh and brighten up their day, if the right person see’s that at the right time it could potentially save someone’s life. If someone is incredibly hurt or upset and is considering ending their life and all of a sudden they see something that makes them laugh and adds some joy into their lives even if it is only for a couple of minutes that could cause them to reconsider their actions. (That sounds a bit extreme and slightly morbid but it isn’t out the realms of possibility).
My point is try to make a difference. You are not going to be on this planet forever but you can create something that will be or failing that you can make a difference to someones life and completely alter their future for the better. Hopefully that provides you with some food for thought and helps to push you to make a positive difference to just one persons life. On that note I am going to leave you with this:
“The world is full of good people. If you can’t find one, be one.”
Thank you very much for reading! A bit of a morbid one today but it is something that people should really try to do and it would make the world a much better and happier place. Leave a like if you enjoyed it and possibly a comment to let me know what you thought. Feel free to follow me to keep up to date with all my content as I upload twice a week. Thank you again and I shall see you on Saturday. Ciao!
If there is one thing that I learnt when I was reading ‘Mind Power’ by James Borg, it was that thoughts are not facts, this is something he really nails into your head for pretty much a whole chapter and I can see why, because it is something people need to learn, just because you think something does not make it true.
This is one of the biggest causes of misery in our lives, just think how many times have you text someone and they didn’t reply and you got p*ssed off because you think that they are ignoring you but you know this might not be the case, they could be busy and not have access to their phone, they might have lost their phone, they might have had a family emergency, the list of reasons is endless but we jump to the conclusion that they’re ignoring us and get annoyed.
Or you have an embarrassing moment while you are at work and you go home panicking that your colleagues will bring it up tomorrow and you’ll be the laughing stock of office and you’ll never live it down and start worrying. When you get in the next day there is a good chance nobody will even remember it, if they do and they do say something it’ll probably just be a one-off comment.
Just because we think we know something or think a certain thing will happen does not mean it will, we base our thoughts on our past experiences and our mindset, it does not make it fact. This is something we need to spend time working on and give up believing everything we think is fact because it just creates unwarranted stress and anxiety, you are just torturing yourself over something that might not happen.
Trust me I know this feeling better than most, as someone who suffers/suffered from anxiety this is something I used to do A LOT! I would constantly worry about going out because I thought things would go wrong and I’d create movies in my head of it going terrribly, one thing would go wrong which would lead to something else happening which would lead to something else going wrong and so on.
Okay I need to end this one now because it’s getting long, thoughts are not facts, just because you think it doesn’t not make it true, remember this especially when you’re having those negative thoughts and you will be much less stressed and anxious. For now I will leave you with this:
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral.”
I’m sorry this is a day late again, I might start uploading blogs on Tuesday and Saturday because it fits into my schedule a lot better. Thank you for reading this and I hope you find it useful, if you did leave a like and possibly a comment. I blog twice a week so hit the follow button if you want to keep up to date with my content. Thanks again and I will see you on Tuesday. Ciao!
Okay first off lets start by saying I’m not sponsored by Dr Pepper, I just love their tagline! But seriously what is the worst that could happen? This is something I find I am asking myself more and more just as of recently especially since I am trying to be more positive and happier. So if you have been following this blog for a while then you will know I have suffered from anxiety for many years and as of recently when I started being more positive it has massively improved.
This little question has been a big part of me lowering my anxiety and doing things that I wouldn’t normally do, and it is something I encourage all of you to try as well. If something scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable then do it, as they say feel the fear but do it anyway. I have learnt that doing the things that scare you is how you grow as a person and find out more about yourself, you grow from doing sh*t that scares you, sure you may be scared at the time but once it is done and you look back on it and think “I did that” there is a huge amount of self confidence that can be gained from it.
It is almost guaranteed that whatever that event or situation is, it will not be as scary once you are doing it, the build up to something is usually far worse than the actual event itself, even if the event is scary you will benefit from that afterwards, you will be well on your way to conquer that fear.
Because of this I now try to do things that scare me, things that may seem like small acts to others but are usually things that would terrify me. First I changed my look by getting a new hairstyle, first time in about 15 years I’ve had a different hairstyle so I was naturally abit nervous at first but I did it and I love my new look. Then I tried contact lenses, for anyone who knows me you will know I have a thing when it comes to eyes, I am very squeamish when it comes to eyes and I never thought I’d be able to wear contacts but I did it, I just thought “F*ck it” and went for it, now although I didn’t keep the contacts I am able to touch my eyes no problem whereas before I would have freaked out trying to do that.
I also recently posted my blog picture and linked my blog up with my Instagram account, I am naturally a very shy and quiet person, I NEVER post on social media as a general rule so to announce to all my friends and the rest of Instagram that I have a blog and they could check it out by following the link, that was huge for me and I kept doubting whether I should do it or not but then again I just went for it and I am so glad I did.
Okay I am rambling on again so I will bring this to a close, I am going to set you a task, this week I want you to do something you wouldn’t normally do. Something that scares you whether that is going on a roller coaster or on something that’s very tall if you are afraid of heights, or volunteering to do that speech at college/work. Anything that you wouldn’t normally do… just do it this time and once you have done it look back at it and just think “I did that” and give yourself a pat on the back. Trust me if you start doing this you will become much more self confident and you will grow from it. You will also open yourself up to new opportunities that you would otherwise have been too scared to do.
Before I rabbit on anymore I am going to leave you with this:
“Psychology says: Go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that’s going to help you grow.”
Thank you very much for reading this one, please have a go at my little challenge and let me know how you got on with it in the comments. Hit like if you enjoyed it and want to see more content like this, I post twice a week so follow me if you would like to be updated every time I post. Thanks again and as usual I will see you on Friday. Ciao!
This is probably the biggest lesson I have learnt in the past week, a key to being happy in life is understanding that people come and go. Not everyone in your life is going to be there till the end, truth is someone who is currently your best friend may not even be an acquaintance anymore in a couple of years… this is okay.
You will be much happier in life when you realise that this is a natural thing and there is nothing you can do about it, it’s just part of life. Things change, people change, situations change.
Nobody is going to be the same person throughout their entire life, sometimes people change and their friends are no longer the best people for them to be around, for example if you’re an alcoholic and trying to pack in the drinking, you’re not going to want to hang around with your mates who go out every weekend to the pub and get absolutely hammered and pressure you to drink, that’s just setting yourself up to fail.
This topic rings strongly with me at the moment because last week I met up with someone who I’ve been best friends with since I was 6, however since we live far away from each other we’ve only saw each other twice in the past 15 years (context: we used to go school together but she moved away and we kept in contact) and one of these times was last week.
We met up and we didn’t get on at all.. We could not have been more opposite, this resulted in us both leaving it drained, after a few days of not talking we had a chat and that was the end of our friendship, my friend decided that it wasn’t going to work and we both felt like we didn’t know the other person and so that ended our friendship. Just like that our close friendship came crumbling down.
This just goes to show how easily a 15 year friendship can end so easily but that’s okay, yeah it sucks that it’s over but when it happened I realised I could either be upset and make myself feel crappy, or I could just accept that it’s part of life and move on.
So like I said understand that you will not always have the same friends, people come and go and that’s just how it is, once you realise this and accept it it’ll save you a lot of heartache in the long run. Anyway I am going to leave this one as i’m rambling, so I will leave you with this:
“In life; People come and go. So, don’t waste your time holding onto people who have let you go”
Thank you very much for reading this one and I hope that it helps someone and prevents them from being as upset when a relationship or a friendship ends. Leave a like if you enjoyed it, massive thank you to everyone liking my posts! Comment to let me know your thoughts. I hope to see you again on Tuesday. Ciao!
*WARNING – SOME PEOPLE MAY BE TRIGGERED WITH THIS POST AS IT IS INCREDIBLY BLUNT BUT I FEEL LIKE IT IS NEEDED*
You’re going to die some day, one day we will all pass away, you only have this one life. MAKE THE MOST OF IT!!
No matter what you plan on doing there will always be someone standing there saying why, you want to lose weight? “Why would you want to do that? Controlling what you eat and doing exercise”. You want to start up your own business? “Why? Giving up your secure job knowing you’ll get paid every month”. You want to make a movie? “Why? That’s not going to get you anywhere and nobody else is doing it”.
Why the f*ck not? You only have this one life. You have this one life to accomplish as much as you can, you have this one life to help as many people as possible, you have this one life to live to your full potential. Why waste it?
You can do anything you want, the only thing stopping you from getting there is yourself. When you’re laying there on your death bed taking your final breathes going over your life in your head, do you want regrets? Do you want to be laying there wishing you’d do this and that, wishing you’d started that business, wishing you’d been healthier and prevented yourself being ill, wishing you’d climbed Mount Everest, wishing you’d asked that girl out, wishing you’d been brave enough to make that big speech? Do you want to be thinking how your life could have turned out if you did things differently? Or do you want to lay there with a big smile on your face telling your family you’ve accomplished everything you ever wanted to do and you have no regrets?
Create the best life you possibly can for yourself, help those around you, fill your life with amazing memories, live to your full potential, live a life you won’t regret when you’re on your death bed.
You only live once, make the most of it!
“Others have seen what is and asked why. I have seen what could be and asked why not” – Pablo Picasso
This isn’t my usual sort of blog post or my normal blogging day but I feel it is needed and it is something some people need to hear, also bare in mind what triggers you is usually what changes you. It being Monday I thought it would be the best day for this post, please take on-board what I have said.
Thank you ever so much for reading and I hope this fired you up and hopefully helped at least one person to do something they didn’t think they could do, if it helped you please leave a like and maybe a comment to give me your opinion, thanks again. I will be back again tomorrow with my normal posts. Ciao!
Okay first off this is going to be a little bit different but it is something I need to get off my chest and it is something I think a lot of people would benefit from knowing, that being said this one is definitely just my opinion but it is one that supported in practice.
People (as a general rule) don’t tend to change for the better without a damn good reason to do so whether it’s someone with a poor attitude, poor mindset or someone who’s overweight, just any bad habit. The don’t change their habits or attitude without a very good reason to do so.
Take someone who’s 30 pounds over weight, they’ve been eating too much for a long time and probably doesn’t do much exercise, they go in for a check up at the doctors and is told that they have very high cholesterol and their heart is having to work very hard to keep them going and if they don’t change their diet by eating a bit cleaner and getting some exercise they’ll almost certainly end up in an early grave. That person then thinks “shit I’ve got to change this” (well not all the time but a lot of people would). But they needed that big reason to push themselves into getting fitter and healthier. That is where they actually start to workout and eat healthier foods to bring their cholesterol down, because they know if they don’t it could kill them.
Or lets say for example, right I’ve been listening to a lot of mindset with muscle podcasts recently and the host Jamie has a lot of guests on it, all of which are very successful people in their industry (usually fitness) and the common thing with almost all of them is they needed a big event to happen before they changed, one was on drugs and its not till he took LSD and had a ‘near death experience’ that he had his epiphany and changed, another went to prison for 4 years and it was only this major event that made him realise he needs to change.
The reason I wrote this article is because of the relevance in my life especially with my friends and their relationships, an example of this is someone I know from college, she had a bf who made her miserable almost every day, had constant arguments with and he was very controlling, it ended when they had a physical fight.. Skip ahead to present day a week later and she’s talking to him again, the response me and her other friends got to this is “oh he’s being really nice, he can change yanno, people do change”… No they don’t, people don’t just change (generally), he’s just being nice so he can get you back and after 2 weeks he’ll be the same guy he’s always been.
But some people just don’t listen, despite being told this by me and 2 other of her close friends she still continues to talk to him so its up to her what she does, nobody can force her to delete him from her life even if we all know that’s the best thing to do. At the end of the day you can’t force someone to do something you have to let them make their mistakes especially when that person is that fixed minded that their is no room for you to work with, anyway I’m going off track.
In summary it usually takes a major event to make someone change for the better, don’t enter manipulative relationships get out of there as soon as possible if you do enter one. And if you want to change something like you want to get in shape then take this idea and give yourself a very strong reason to change like you want to prolong your life or walk your child down the aisle of her wedding, something that is very power and strong with you, this will massively increase the likelihood of you sticking to achieving that goal.
Before I continue to ramble on I better leave this one here so I shall leave you with this:
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from whatever makes you unhappy”
Sorry this is not my usual type of post but it is something I needed to get off my chest and get out their. Massive thank you to everyone who is following my blog, I’ve got myself a little audience who keeps coming back now which is really cool. If you like the content I create please let me know by liking it or leaving a comment to tell me your opinion, it would be greatly appreciated if you do that, I blog at least twice a week so follow me if you want to keep up to date, thanks ever so much again. Catch you on Tuesday. Ciao!