If there is one thing that I learnt when I was reading ‘Mind Power’ by James Borg, it was that thoughts are not facts, this is something he really nails into your head for pretty much a whole chapter and I can see why, because it is something people need to learn, just because you think something does not make it true.
This is one of the biggest causes of misery in our lives, just think how many times have you text someone and they didn’t reply and you got p*ssed off because you think that they are ignoring you but you know this might not be the case, they could be busy and not have access to their phone, they might have lost their phone, they might have had a family emergency, the list of reasons is endless but we jump to the conclusion that they’re ignoring us and get annoyed.
Or you have an embarrassing moment while you are at work and you go home panicking that your colleagues will bring it up tomorrow and you’ll be the laughing stock of office and you’ll never live it down and start worrying. When you get in the next day there is a good chance nobody will even remember it, if they do and they do say something it’ll probably just be a one-off comment.
Just because we think we know something or think a certain thing will happen does not mean it will, we base our thoughts on our past experiences and our mindset, it does not make it fact. This is something we need to spend time working on and give up believing everything we think is fact because it just creates unwarranted stress and anxiety, you are just torturing yourself over something that might not happen.
Trust me I know this feeling better than most, as someone who suffers/suffered from anxiety this is something I used to do A LOT! I would constantly worry about going out because I thought things would go wrong and I’d create movies in my head of it going terrribly, one thing would go wrong which would lead to something else happening which would lead to something else going wrong and so on.
Okay I need to end this one now because it’s getting long, thoughts are not facts, just because you think it doesn’t not make it true, remember this especially when you’re having those negative thoughts and you will be much less stressed and anxious. For now I will leave you with this:
“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral.”
I’m sorry this is a day late again, I might start uploading blogs on Tuesday and Saturday because it fits into my schedule a lot better. Thank you for reading this and I hope you find it useful, if you did leave a like and possibly a comment. I blog twice a week so hit the follow button if you want to keep up to date with my content. Thanks again and I will see you on Tuesday. Ciao!