This is probably the biggest lesson I have learnt in the past week, a key to being happy in life is understanding that people come and go. Not everyone in your life is going to be there till the end, truth is someone who is currently your best friend may not even be an acquaintance anymore in a couple of years… this is okay.
You will be much happier in life when you realise that this is a natural thing and there is nothing you can do about it, it’s just part of life. Things change, people change, situations change.
Nobody is going to be the same person throughout their entire life, sometimes people change and their friends are no longer the best people for them to be around, for example if you’re an alcoholic and trying to pack in the drinking, you’re not going to want to hang around with your mates who go out every weekend to the pub and get absolutely hammered and pressure you to drink, that’s just setting yourself up to fail.
This topic rings strongly with me at the moment because last week I met up with someone who I’ve been best friends with since I was 6, however since we live far away from each other we’ve only saw each other twice in the past 15 years (context: we used to go school together but she moved away and we kept in contact) and one of these times was last week.
We met up and we didn’t get on at all.. We could not have been more opposite, this resulted in us both leaving it drained, after a few days of not talking we had a chat and that was the end of our friendship, my friend decided that it wasn’t going to work and we both felt like we didn’t know the other person and so that ended our friendship. Just like that our close friendship came crumbling down.
This just goes to show how easily a 15 year friendship can end so easily but that’s okay, yeah it sucks that it’s over but when it happened I realised I could either be upset and make myself feel crappy, or I could just accept that it’s part of life and move on.
So like I said understand that you will not always have the same friends, people come and go and that’s just how it is, once you realise this and accept it it’ll save you a lot of heartache in the long run. Anyway I am going to leave this one as i’m rambling, so I will leave you with this:
“In life; People come and go. So, don’t waste your time holding onto people who have let you go”
Thank you very much for reading this one and I hope that it helps someone and prevents them from being as upset when a relationship or a friendship ends. Leave a like if you enjoyed it, massive thank you to everyone liking my posts! Comment to let me know your thoughts. I hope to see you again on Tuesday. Ciao!