Okay first off this is going to be a little bit different but it is something I need to get off my chest and it is something I think a lot of people would benefit from knowing, that being said this one is definitely just my opinion but it is one that supported in practice.
People (as a general rule) don’t tend to change for the better without a damn good reason to do so whether it’s someone with a poor attitude, poor mindset or someone who’s overweight, just any bad habit. The don’t change their habits or attitude without a very good reason to do so.
Take someone who’s 30 pounds over weight, they’ve been eating too much for a long time and probably doesn’t do much exercise, they go in for a check up at the doctors and is told that they have very high cholesterol and their heart is having to work very hard to keep them going and if they don’t change their diet by eating a bit cleaner and getting some exercise they’ll almost certainly end up in an early grave. That person then thinks “shit I’ve got to change this” (well not all the time but a lot of people would). But they needed that big reason to push themselves into getting fitter and healthier. That is where they actually start to workout and eat healthier foods to bring their cholesterol down, because they know if they don’t it could kill them.
Or lets say for example, right I’ve been listening to a lot of mindset with muscle podcasts recently and the host Jamie has a lot of guests on it, all of which are very successful people in their industry (usually fitness) and the common thing with almost all of them is they needed a big event to happen before they changed, one was on drugs and its not till he took LSD and had a ‘near death experience’ that he had his epiphany and changed, another went to prison for 4 years and it was only this major event that made him realise he needs to change.
The reason I wrote this article is because of the relevance in my life especially with my friends and their relationships, an example of this is someone I know from college, she had a bf who made her miserable almost every day, had constant arguments with and he was very controlling, it ended when they had a physical fight.. Skip ahead to present day a week later and she’s talking to him again, the response me and her other friends got to this is “oh he’s being really nice, he can change yanno, people do change”… No they don’t, people don’t just change (generally), he’s just being nice so he can get you back and after 2 weeks he’ll be the same guy he’s always been.
But some people just don’t listen, despite being told this by me and 2 other of her close friends she still continues to talk to him so its up to her what she does, nobody can force her to delete him from her life even if we all know that’s the best thing to do. At the end of the day you can’t force someone to do something you have to let them make their mistakes especially when that person is that fixed minded that their is no room for you to work with, anyway I’m going off track.
In summary it usually takes a major event to make someone change for the better, don’t enter manipulative relationships get out of there as soon as possible if you do enter one. And if you want to change something like you want to get in shape then take this idea and give yourself a very strong reason to change like you want to prolong your life or walk your child down the aisle of her wedding, something that is very power and strong with you, this will massively increase the likelihood of you sticking to achieving that goal.
Before I continue to ramble on I better leave this one here so I shall leave you with this:
“Respect yourself enough to walk away from whatever makes you unhappy”
Sorry this is not my usual type of post but it is something I needed to get off my chest and get out their. Massive thank you to everyone who is following my blog, I’ve got myself a little audience who keeps coming back now which is really cool. If you like the content I create please let me know by liking it or leaving a comment to tell me your opinion, it would be greatly appreciated if you do that, I blog at least twice a week so follow me if you want to keep up to date, thanks ever so much again. Catch you on Tuesday. Ciao!