Don’t Have Time?!

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Okay so this is going to be a pretty short blog post, I am currently writing this on my phone while I am cooking my lunch. As I mentioned a post or 2 again I am currently a very busy person trying to run this blog, studying 2 courses, trying to work overtime all while balancing the gym and my diet in there as well.
Because I am trying to balance this I am going to be putting this blog on hold for a little while BUT I am not going to say that I am too busy to do it! I hate that excuse, you are never too busy to do something, you have the same 24 hours in your day as everyone else and I guarantee there are people who use those 24 hours much more productively than you, the simple fact is its not a high enough priority for you at that moment.
While there is only so much you can do in a day the fact is that almost nobody is 100% productive and efficient, this means if something was a high enough priority then you could make time for it, the catch is.. This time has to come from somewhere, if you’re being as efficient with your time as you possibly can then that time has to come out of the time you would spend doing another task, for example if you wanted to hit the gym before work you might need to get an hour less sleep to do that.
As much as I enjoy blogging and providing (hopefully) helpful content, it is currently not the highest priority to me. Because of how busy I am, I am struggling to get everything done, this has resulted in me not getting enough sleep aswell as no longer reading which in turn has made me hit a bit of a creative wall. At the moment I am seriously struggling to think of new blog ideas, which is disastrous when you’re meant to upload two a week…
So for the time being, hopefully only a couple of weeks, I am going to stop with the blogging and give myself more time for other things as well as giving myself time to think of content for my blog.
If there is anything that can be taken away from this post, it is stop saying you are too busy to do something, truth is it’s just not a high enough priority for you at that moment for you to invest the time in it. On that note I will leave you with this:
“You define what is important to you by what you dedicate your time to. “
Thank you for reading this one, I am hoping to come back very soon once I have got over this creative block and find a better schedule to manage my time! Thanks again, I will be back soon. Ciao!
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Going Back To Basics

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Okay i’m not talking about going back to basics to the extent of that picture above but more going back to basics in terms of getting sh*t done. As of just recently I have been getting busier and busier but I am getting lazier and lazier, needless to say this is not a good mix. So to combat this I am going to go back to the basic productivity activities that I used to do.

Firstly I am going to start writing sh*t down again and making lists, as I’ve discussed before writing stuff down with a notepad and pen is the best way of getting yourself to be more productive, seeing that goal written down in your own handwriting can have a big effect on you not to mention it is incredibly satisfying to tick something off your to-do list.

It also allows you to plan out your day when you write things down because you’re not constantly thinking “I’ve got so much to do, I’ve got to do this and that” you just write it down and get on with it, this also makes it easier to think clearly as you have a clear mind.

Secondly I am going to start going for walks and listening to podcasts while on my walk again, this really helps me to clear my head and gives me some time out to think as well as letting me get in a bit extra exercise. One thing a lot of successful people share is they have dedicated time for themselves and allow themselves some time to clear their head.

Finally I am going to spend less time on Instagram as this seems to be eating up all my free-time at the moment so I will be setting out certain times where I can check social media. On that note I am going to leave this one here, so I will leave you with this:

“Days are expensive. When you spend a day you have one less day to spend. So make sure you spend each one wisely.” – Jim Rohn

Thank you for reading this one, its a bit shorter than my normal post but that’s probably a good thing. Leave a like if you enjoyed it and I encourage any of you struggling with productivity to try out these tips as well. Hit follow if you would like to keep up to date with my blog as I post twice a week, thank you again and I shall see you on Tuesday. Ciao!

 

 

Make A Difference!

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The sad truth is we are not going to live forever, one day we are all going to perish and end up in a wooden casket or get turned to ashes, and that is fine, that it a part of life. The sad part of that is once you are dead you will be gone, you will be nothing but a memory in the hearts of your loved ones. I do not like the thought of that, I want to leave something behind, a legacy of sorts, I do not want to be buried and forgotten about, I want my life to have meant something, I want to have achieved something with my life and most importantly I want to make a difference to peoples lives.

That is why I do this blog every week, that is why I try to create YouTube videos when I have free time. I want to make people laugh, I want to make someones day that little bit brighter, sure its not like I am making a global impact that is going to change the world but we don’t need to, you just need to make a difference to someones life, if I affect just 1 persons life then I will be happy.

When we here about people making a difference it’s these big things that will change numerous peoples lives forever, that is something I admire to and would like to accomplish but just for a second imagine the butterfly effect of having a small effect on someone’s life and how that could ultimately completely reshape them as a person or reshape their future.

Let’s take a more extreme but not entirely unlikely circumstance of this, say you are a Youtuber and you make funny videos and you just want to make people laugh and brighten up their day, if the right person see’s that at the right time it could potentially save someone’s life. If someone is incredibly hurt or upset and is considering ending their life and all of a sudden they see something that makes them laugh and adds some joy into their lives even if it is only for a couple of minutes that could cause them to reconsider their actions. (That sounds a bit extreme and slightly morbid but it isn’t out the realms of possibility).

My point is try to make a difference. You are not going to be on this planet forever but you can create something that will be or failing that you can make a difference to someones life and completely alter their future for the better. Hopefully that provides you with some food for thought and helps to push you to make a positive difference to just one persons life. On that note I am going to leave you with this:

“The world is full of good people. If you can’t find one, be one.”

Thank you very much for reading! A bit of a morbid one today but it is something that people should really try to do and it would make the world a much better and happier place. Leave a like if you enjoyed it and possibly a comment to let me know what you thought. Feel free to follow me to keep up to date with all my content as I upload twice a week. Thank you again and I shall see you on Saturday. Ciao!

 

 

Thoughts Are Not Facts!

Thoughts are not facts jpeg.jpgIf there is one thing that I learnt when I was reading ‘Mind Power’ by James Borg, it was that thoughts are not facts, this is something he really nails into your head for pretty much a whole chapter and I can see why, because it is something people need to learn, just because you think something does not make it true.

This is one of the biggest causes of misery in our lives, just think how many times have you text someone and they didn’t reply and you got p*ssed off because you think that they are ignoring you but you know this might not be the case, they could be busy and not have access to their phone, they might have lost their phone, they might have had a family emergency, the list of reasons is endless but we jump to the conclusion that they’re ignoring us and get annoyed.

Or you have an embarrassing moment while you are at work and you go home panicking that your colleagues will bring it up tomorrow and you’ll be the laughing stock of office and you’ll never live it down and start worrying. When you get in the next day there is a good chance nobody will even remember it, if they do and they do say something it’ll probably just be a one-off comment.

Just because we think we know something or think a certain thing will happen does not mean it will, we base our thoughts on our past experiences and our mindset, it does not make it fact. This is something we need to spend time working on and give up believing everything we think is fact because it just creates unwarranted stress and anxiety, you are just torturing yourself over something that might not happen.

Trust me I know this feeling better than most, as someone who suffers/suffered from anxiety this is something I used to do A LOT! I would constantly worry about going out because I thought things would go wrong and I’d create movies in my head of it going terrribly, one thing would go wrong which would lead to something else happening which would lead to something else going wrong and so on.

Okay I need to end this one now because it’s getting long, thoughts are not facts, just because you think it doesn’t not make it true, remember this especially when you’re having those negative thoughts and you will be much less stressed and anxious. For now I will leave you with this:

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral.”

I’m sorry this is a day late again, I might start uploading blogs on Tuesday and Saturday because it fits into my schedule a lot better. Thank you for reading this and I hope you find it useful, if you did leave a like and possibly a comment. I blog twice a week so hit the follow button if you want to keep up to date with my content. Thanks again and I will see you on Tuesday. Ciao!

What’s The Worst That Could Happen?

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Okay first off lets start by saying I’m not sponsored by Dr Pepper, I just love their tagline! But seriously what is the worst that could happen? This is something I find I am asking myself more and more just as of recently especially since I am trying to be more positive and happier. So if you have been following this blog for a while then you will know I have suffered from anxiety for many years and as of recently when I started being more positive it has massively improved.

This little question has been a big part of me lowering my anxiety and doing things that I wouldn’t normally do, and it is something I encourage all of you to try as well. If something scares you or makes you feel uncomfortable then do it, as they say feel the fear but do it anyway. I have learnt that doing the things that scare you is how you grow as a person and find out more about yourself, you grow from doing sh*t that scares you, sure you may be scared at the time but once it is done and you look back on it and think “I did that” there is a huge amount of self confidence that can be gained from it.

It is almost guaranteed that whatever that event or situation is, it will not be as scary once you are doing it, the build up to something is usually far worse than the actual event itself, even if the event is scary you will benefit from that afterwards, you will be well on your way to conquer that fear.

Because of this I now try to do things that scare me, things that may seem like small acts to others but are usually things that would terrify me. First I changed my look by getting a new hairstyle, first time in about 15 years I’ve had a different hairstyle so I was naturally abit nervous at first but I did it and I love my new look. Then I tried contact lenses, for anyone who knows me you will know I have a thing when it comes to eyes, I am very squeamish when it comes to eyes and I never thought I’d be able to wear contacts but I did it, I just thought “F*ck it” and went for it, now although I didn’t keep the contacts I am able to touch my eyes no problem whereas before I would have freaked out trying to do that.

I also recently posted my blog picture and linked my blog up with my Instagram account, I am naturally a very shy and quiet person, I NEVER post on social media as a general rule so to announce to all my friends and the rest of Instagram that I have a blog and they could check it out by following the link, that was huge for me and I kept doubting whether I should do it or not but then again I just went for it and I am so glad I did.

Okay I am rambling on again so I will bring this to a close, I am going to set you a task, this week I want you to do something you wouldn’t normally do. Something that scares you whether that is going on a roller coaster or on something that’s very tall if you are afraid of heights, or volunteering to do that speech at college/work. Anything that you wouldn’t normally do… just do it this time and once you have done it look back at it and just think “I did that” and give yourself a pat on the back. Trust me if you start doing this you will become much more self confident and you will grow from it. You will also open yourself up to new opportunities that you would otherwise have been too scared to do.

Before I rabbit on anymore I am going to leave you with this:

“Psychology says: Go with the choice that scares you the most, because that’s the one that’s going to help you grow.”

Thank you very much for reading this one, please have a go at my little challenge and let me know how you got on with it in the comments. Hit like if you enjoyed it and want to see more content like this, I post twice a week so follow me if you would like to be updated every time I post. Thanks again and as usual I will see you on Friday. Ciao!

The Art Of Not Giving A F*ck

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The number one reason people don’t do things they want to do is because they care what other people think, this prevents them from reaching their goals, taking risks or living to their full potential because they are so terrified of being judged.

One thing that will benefit anybody reading this, is learning the subtle art of not giving a f*ck, if you learn this I guarantee your confidence will go through the roof, you will be much happier and you will achieve so much more than you would have achieved if you keep caring about what people think.

Truth is, in a persons mind they are the main character in their story, everyone else is just a side character, people do not care about what those side characters are doing anywhere near as much as people think.

It takes practice but stop caring what other people think. Let’s have an example of what i’m talking about, say you post a picture of yourself on Facebook, say you are showing a birth mark that you are incredibly self conscious about, if someone looks at that and says/thinks “Ew that’s ugly why would they post that” that says much more about them than it does about you, it shows you are confident enough to show off your flaws and your imperfections whereas that person who insulted you is secretly insecure about part of their own body image and doesn’t even have the confidence to show it off themselves so they decide to insult you to make themselves feel better.

Really who cares what people think, what does it matter what anyone says about you, if they compliment or admire you for whatever you are doing then groovy but if they try to insult you that just shows their own insecurities. When someone see’s something they are jealous of or they are insecure about they are inclined to get defensive and enter attack mode and insult you and try to put you down to make themselves feel better, don’t give them that satisfaction.

If you really want to do something then do it! Don’t let anyone stop you from following your dreams or posting that picture on social media or starting up that YouTube channel! F*ck what other people think. On that note I am going to leave you with this:

“What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life” – Deepak Chopra”

Sorry I didn’t post yesterday, I didn’t have the time to write a post that was good enough quality before I had to go to work. Thank you ever so much for reading this one and I encourage you to start making a conscious effort to care less about what other people think, what’s the worst that can happen? If you enjoyed this one please like it and maybe leave me a comment to give me your opinion. I post twice a week every week so feel free to follow me to keep up to date with my content, thanks again! I shall see you next Tuesday. Ciao!

It’s Okay To Say No!

If there is anything that I am terribly guilty of doing it is saying yes to everything, however this is something that I am trying to change this year. Truth is it is okay to say no! You are not obliged to do anything that you do not want to do and you are fully entitled to use that two letter word ‘NO’.

This is something people really need to start practising, if something costs you your happiness or your mental health then you might want to really considering saying no and focusing on your own well being instead. What people usually do is they get asked to do something by a friend or a colleague and you feel rude to say no but think to yourself if that is something that you do not want to do or is going to put you under stress because it is adding more workload on top of what you already need to do then it’s not worth it. Sure that person might be a bit disappointed but your own well being and happiness is more important, besides which if that person is a true friend then they will understand.

That is something that people also need to remember, if that person would be worth doing whatever task for then they will understand why you say no, if they hold the fact that you said no against you or it comes between your friendship then that person was never worth doing it for anyway. True friends will understand that it will make you unhappy or it will affect your mental well being and they wouldn’t dream of holding that against you because that’s not what friends do, real friends want you to be happy and do the best you can not get mad at you for turning something down.

Your happiness and mental health comes first! That is more important than anything! Obviously we all like to be helpful and like to lend a hand to people to make their lives easier but if it is going to be detrimental to yourself then it is not worth it! On that note I am going to leave you with this:

“Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive”

Thank you very much for reading this one and hope that it gives some people a bit of food for thought and potentially helps them out. Please leave a like if you enjoyed it and maybe a comment to let me know your thoughts. I post twice a week every week so if you would like to keep up to date with my content feel free to follow me. I shall see you again on Friday. Ciao!